Features
Everything in the app, in one place.
A plain reference of every capability, grouped so you can scan it. For the story of how it all fits together, read How it works.
The Deck
Cards and ownership
The deck is the heart of the app — every standing responsibility, each owned by exactly one person.
Whole-card ownership
Each card — the cooking, the bills, the car — has a single owner who carries it end to end: the noticing, the planning, the doing. Half-cards are impossible by design, because a split card is what creates mental load.
The joint sort
You build the deck together from a catalogue of life's standing responsibilities, claiming each card in one shared sitting rather than one person assigning the other.
Re-dealing a card
Life changes, so ownership can too. Handing a card over is a proposal the other person accepts — never a job dropped on them.
Tasks & recurrence
The recurrence engine
Under each card sit the actual tasks — one-off or recurring — handled by a first-class recurrence engine.
One-off and recurring tasks
A task is a single thing to do or a repeating one. Recurring tasks support daily, weekly on chosen days, every N weeks, monthly by date, or monthly by weekday — each with an optional end date.
Occurrences
Recurring tasks materialise as dated occurrences on a rolling window ahead. An occurrence can be completed early or late, or skipped, without disturbing the rest of the series.
This one, or all future
Editing a recurring task asks the obvious question — change just this occurrence, or every one from here on. Your timezone governs when a day rolls over.
Today
The daily briefing
Today is the home screen — your cards, what's due, and a calm read of the day.
Your day, in your colour
Today gathers the cards and occurrences that sit with you, drawn in the colour you chose, so a glance tells you what's yours.
The AI daily briefing
Each morning a short, plain-spoken briefing reads you your day — what's due, what your partner has, what's quietly handled. Ambient, never a chat you have to start.
Your partner's day, one tap away
Their day is visible when you want it and never pushed onto you — the picture is shared, not imposed.
Projects
Bigger things
Some things are larger than a card. A project gathers the steps and keeps both of you in the loop.
A clear lead
Every project has one lead, so accountability for the whole is never vague — even when the work is shared.
Assignable steps
A project breaks into steps that either of you can hold, so the lead carries the shape while the work is genuinely shareable.
The update feed
A shared feed of progress keeps the non-lead partner aware and able to step in. The AI can draft a project's first breakdown from one sentence.
The assistant
AI that helps, never gates
A real assistant for the everyday — held, always, to a strict parity guarantee.
Ask anything, and it acts
Ask a question or give an instruction in plain words — reassign a card, add a task, draft a project, check who has what — and the assistant does it.
The parity guarantee
Everything the AI can do, you can also do by hand with a plain button. It is a supplement, never a gate — if it is slow or down, the app still works completely.
Within your data only
The assistant works strictly inside your couple's own deck and projects, and your data is never used to train models.
Colour identity
Two colours, one shared life
You each choose a colour. Yours marks the cards you own; everything shared wears the blend of both. It appears across the app in four treatments — a quiet, wordless read on how the load sits.
The Blend
Shared surfaces — projects, the home.
The Midpoint
One “us” colour — the wordmark, the icon.
The Aura
Soft, calm backgrounds — the briefing.
Side by side
Held apart — the honest balance view.
Staying in sync
One shared, live picture
Both of you see the same thing, on every device, kept current without effort.
Real-time sync
Claiming a card, completing a task, posting a project update — every change appears on your partner's screen within about a second.
The balance view
An honest, on-demand look at how the load sits — the deck split by owner and a trailing view of completed work. Calm and simple, never a scoreboard.
The installable app
Share the Mental Load is a progressive web app — equally at home on phone and desktop, installable to your home screen with its own icon and full-screen view.
See it all working, together.
Every feature here exists for one reason — to reduce the load, never add to it. Free while in early release.
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