Share the Mental Load

Everything you both carry, in one calm place.

The noticing, the planning, the remembering that keeps a home running — finally shared, fairly, between two people. Not a chore list. A calm picture of who carries what.

Free while in early release · works on phone and desktop

Today · Thursday 21 May

Your morning

Three things sit with you today. The dentist still needs booking. Bins go out tonight, and it’s your night to cook. Sam has the school run. Nothing’s slipping.

Book the dentistYOU
Put the bins outYOU
School runSAM

The invisible work

There's a kind of work that never gets seen.

Someone remembers the dentist is due. Someone notices you’re nearly out of nappies. Someone holds the running list of everything that can’t be forgotten. That noticing, planning and remembering is the mental load — and it rarely lands evenly. Usually one person carries most of it, and the carrying is invisible, even to the people who love them.

  • Did anyone book the car in?
  • We're low on her prescription.
  • Mum's birthday is in two weeks.

How it works

A shared deck, dealt together.

Setup is a few minutes, done side by side — never homework that lands on one person.

  1. Pair up

    One of you starts and invites the other. You each pick a name, a colour and a timezone.

  2. Deal the deck

    Go through a catalogue of life's standing responsibilities and claim each to a single owner — together.

  3. Carry your cards

    A card is owned end to end: you notice it, plan it, do it. No half-cards, no grey areas.

  4. Stay in the picture

    Each morning a calm briefing reads you your day. Changes appear live on both your devices.

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What's inside

Built to reduce the load, never add to it.

Whole-card ownership

A responsibility, owned end to end.

Every standing job — weeknight dinners, the bills, the car — is a card with exactly one owner. Splitting a card in half is what creates mental load, so the app makes it impossible. Fairness comes from how the deck is dealt, not from nagging.

Food & Home

Weeknight dinners

3 tasks · you

Grocery & pantry

2 tasks · Sam

Bins & recycling

1 task · Sam

Household bills

4 tasks · you

Today & the briefing

Your morning, read to you.

Today shows your cards and what’s due, drawn in your colour. At the top, an AI-written briefing — ambient, plain-spoken, never a chat you have to start. Your partner’s day is one tap away, never pushed onto you.

Today · Thursday 21 May

Your morning

Three things sit with you today. The dentist still needs booking. Bins go out tonight, and it’s your night to cook. Sam has the school run. Nothing’s slipping.

Book the dentistYOU
Put the bins outYOU
School runSAM

Projects

Bigger things — a clear lead, an open door.

Selling the house, planning a trip. A project has one lead for accountability, but steps either of you can take and a shared update feed so the other can step in. The AI drafts the first breakdown from a single sentence.

Led by you

Sell the house

7 of 18 steps · Sam can see everything · updated 2h ago

Ask

Ask. It acts. You could've done it by hand.

A real assistant that answers questions and takes action — reassign a card, add a task, draft a project. But it’s a supplement, never a gate: everything it does is also a button. If it’s slow or down, the app still fully works.

Move bin night to Sam this week
Done — bins are Sam’s for this week only, back to you next Thursday. Want it permanent instead?

Everything it does, you can also do by hand.

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Colour identity

Two colours, one shared life.

You each choose a colour. Yours marks the cards you own, cleanly and unmistakably. Everything you share — a project, the home, the two of you as a pair — wears the blend of both. A quiet, wordless read on how the load sits.

  • The Blend

    Shared surfaces — projects, the home.

  • The Midpoint

    One “us” colour — the wordmark, the icon.

  • The Aura

    Soft, calm backgrounds — the briefing.

  • Side by side

    Held apart — the honest balance view.

Calm by design

It will never become another chore.

The whole point is relief, not anxiety. So the things that make other apps stressful are deliberately left out.

  • No nagging

    The app never pesters, reminds you that you're behind, or guilt-trips. It informs; it doesn't pressure.

  • No scoreboards

    No points, streaks or leaderboards. Two adults running a home don't need a game with a loser.

  • Nothing dumped on your partner

    Handing over a card is offered and accepted — never imposed. You can't drop work onto someone.

  • The AI is never in the way

    It helps where it can, but every action is also a plain button. The app works completely without it.

Your home is yours

Intimate by nature. Private by design.

This app holds the details of your home and your relationship. Your data is never used to train models. You can export it, or delete it completely, whenever you want — no email, no friction.

How we handle your data

Start your deck, together.

Free while in early release. A few minutes to set up — and then it’s just there, quietly keeping the two of you on the same page.

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